3 Characteristics Of People Who Love Being Alone

. There are moments where we enjoy being alone. Because sometimes you need to solve a problem by yourself, or just don’t want to share your thoughts with the rest of the world. According to psychologists, in order to be quiet people need to stay at least once a week alone. But in fact, people […]

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There are moments where we enjoy being alone. Because sometimes you need to solve a problem by yourself, or just don’t want to share your thoughts with the rest of the world.
According to psychologists, in order to be quiet people need to stay at least once a week alone.
But in fact, people choose to stay in crowded places instead and overthink about their problems.
Below you can learn more characteristics about people who love being alone.

Which Are 3 Characteristics Of People Who Love Being Alone?

1. THEY DO LIKE PEOPLE

Sure, there are reclusive weirdos like Ted Kaczynski (the “Unabomber”) and other misanthropes who despise society. But these people are a (rare!) exception to the rule.

Introverts (and other “loners”) do like people if given enough time to understand them, and vice-versa. Our more outgoing colleagues are more gifted at making small talk, which is a necessary pre-requisite for making friends with many people. Small talk isn’t something introverts do particularly well, which is partially the reason we despise it.

We like people, we like having a small circle of friends; but we’re just as comfortable – if not more so – being alone in a quiet café somewhere.

2. THEY’RE OPEN-MINDED

It’s quite easy to cast someone who’s quiet or reserved as being judgmental. Most times, however, this is not the case. People secure in spending time alone doesn’t make them more or less closed-minded than anyone else.

(Personally, I can attest to the accuracy of this research. Most of my friends tend to be introverted, and we both think and discuss a variety of topics. I can’t think of one time we didn’t approach a person or topic of discussion with open-minded curiosity.)

3. THEY’RE GREAT LISTENERS

That’s right, some people who cherish their alone time also have some pretty good listening chops.

Nancy Ancowitz, author of Self Promotion for Introverts: The Quiet Guide to Getting Ahead, writes, “One lesson we can learn from introverts is that practicing and improving your listening skills helps you in so many aspects of your life. It helps you target your audience, whether you’re speaking publicly, participating in a meeting, negotiating a sale, or relating to a friend.”

Unsurprisingly, this ability comes from differences in brain chemistry: “As an introvert, your listening to talking ratio is higher,” says Ancowitz. “You tend to be processing things quietly in your head as opposed to out loud, which adds noise to the conversation.”

(Ancowitz’s findings are quite accurate. The only thing I’d add is “except in situations that involve small talk.” In this scenario, loners are exasperated and won’t actively pay attention, much less listen.)

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