Mean people usually have more complex behaviors comparing it to other people. Sometimes they act in a way that no one understands. The reason why they act like this, is because they feel comfortable in a way they are. So that’s why they decide to show other people the honesty in their personality. According to […]

Mean people usually have more complex behaviors comparing it to other people. Sometimes they act in a way that no one understands.
The reason why they act like this, is because they feel comfortable in a way they are. So that’s why they decide to show other people the honesty in their personality.
According to the psychologists, mean people have more real friends comparing it to people who fake with their gestures.
Scroll down to see what kind of excuses mean people try to make for their behavior.

Which Are The 3 Excuses Mean People Try To Make For Their Behaviour?

1. They Don’t Like Lies And Want To Be Honest With The Rest Of The World

Paulo Coelho once said, “How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.” And I couldn’t agree more.

Mean people can often say cruel things to other people and excuse their behavior as just being honest. Honesty is often born out of wanting to heal and make another person feel good, or to help them, even if it isn’t something that they want to hear.

Mean people, however, will use that honesty as an excuse to be cruel- they may say something mean about your hair, your clothes, your personality, all while trying to sugarcoat it with the claim of being “brutally honest.” But brutal honesty is only about making them feel good, and letting them say the things they want to without consequence.

As Author Randy Conley says, “If you frequently find yourself saying “I’m just being honest and telling it like it is,” then you’re probably relying too much on your default nature of being direct and to the point. Those are great traits to possess, but they shouldn’t be used as an excuse for being harsh or inconsiderate with people.”

2. They Act Mean Because Other People Made Them Feel This Way

Toxic people have a lot of negative emotions, but they never take responsibility for the way they feel. One of the biggest excuses that mean people make for themselves is that other people are the cause of their emotions. Because other people make them feel this way, it isn’t the mean person’s fault for how they react. If someone says something that upsets them, then it’s not their fault if they have a strong, negative reaction and treat the other person unkindly.

And “When you point out something that they have done, they do not take ownership of it nor will they apologize. You will need to move forward. If you are waiting for an apology then you will keep waiting. It will be smart to simply move forward without expecting an apology that will never come,” says Dr. David Simonsen.

3. They Feel Comfortable When They Are Themselves

Some mean people justify their behavior as it just being a part of their personality. That’s just the way they are, they tell it like it is, and other people are too sensitive if they don’t like it. This excuse is unacceptable because there’s no reason for them to treat people the way they do. They tend to pull this excuse so that they don’t have to examine their behavior and make any changes, no matter how many people they hurt.

Psychiatrist Abigail Brenner M.D. says “It’s hard to know who you’re with at any given time because they are often not the same person. They may change their perspective, attitude, and behavior depending on what they feel they need to accomplish or what they want to have happen. (And they know how to be kind when they want something from you.”

.