3 Reasons Why You Should Avoid Talking To Your Ex On Social Media

. Ending your relationship is one of the saddest things that can happen. At first, you will feel the emptiness inside you and will miss your ex so much. But sometimes it’s better to let go than fighting for a life you don’t deserve. When it comes to break up’s, many couples choose to still […]

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Ending your relationship is one of the saddest things that can happen. At first, you will feel the emptiness inside you and will miss your ex so much.
But sometimes it’s better to let go than fighting for a life you don’t deserve.
When it comes to break up’s, many couples choose to still talk even they aren’t in a relationship anymore. Unfortunately, this habit can hurt partners feelings more and ruin the things.
Scroll down to see it’s better to avoid talking to your ex on social media.

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Why You Should Avoid Talking To Your Ex On Social Media?

1. You Will Be Waiting For Something That Is Never Going To Happen

People share all kinds of things on social media, but for the most part, people tend to only share the good things. This means you’re getting a limited view of your ex – all of the good parts. You may find yourself starting to feel false hope that things have changed and that they’re now a viable partner for you, even if they weren’t before.

Studies have shown that people who continue to stalk or keep tabs on their ex partners through social media like Facebook are more likely to reach out and try to continue being with them intimately. This can lead to false hope that things are going to work out between the two of you, even if the majority of the relationship was fraught with issues.

Psychologist and author Jill Weber, Ph.D. says, “If your relationship has ended, then it’s over: What you had with your ex no longer exists. Continuing the connection means that a part of you is still hoping that in some alternate universe there is a chance you and your ex can be together and be happy. As a result, you live off moments of closeness.”

Keeping distant from your ex partner’s social media can remind you of the whole of the relationship, not just the good parts.

2. You Will Become A Real Stalker

Most people think that checking up on their ex’s social media isn’t a big deal, and that it doesn’t do anyone any harm. What they know can’t hurt them, right? That might be true, if science didn’t confirm that people who social media stalk often bring that behavior into the real world. Instead of just browsing their profiles, they end up “accidentally” running into them because they know where they’re going that day, or bringing them gifts to try and get back together.

“… we understand what it’s like to be a celebrity and be stalked but I would argue that we are now all public figures, we all have a social media profile and we’re all at risk from individuals who may become fixated on what we represent. So, I do think we’ve got a long way to go in terms of the law and our own self-management when it comes to how we fixate on others. Stalking is defined as a fixation on others, if we put too much energy into other people online we are at risk of developing very difficult behaviours,” says Dr. Emma Short, an expert in Cyber Stalking and Harassment

This can often be read as quite threatening behavior on behalf of the ex-partner. It may seem harmless at first, but that behavior is threatening and inappropriate. This behavior can cause a lot of anxiety in the person on the other end of the stalking, and if it escalates, it can even cause problems for you.

3. You Will Turn In A More Depressed Person

In the end, stalking your ex in social media … just doesn’t feel good! Science has shown that people who tend to stalk their exes on social media are also the same people who have a greater risk of depression. Constantly reminding yourself of a relationship that ended is a great way to cause yourself unneeded anguish.

“Both psychiatrists and psychologists report that there is a close relationship between social media and depression since it is becoming a major means of communication. The addiction leads to social withdrawal, as users are preoccupied with spending their time on self-entertainment and defusing their daily activities,” says clinical psychologist Dr. Dolly Habbal.

Any psychologist will point out that there’s no need for you to keep tabs on your ex, and that doing so is only likely to increase your own anxiety and depression. It can even make it harder for you to move on to a new relationship.

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