3 Ways To Avoid Unnecessary Fights In Your Relationship

. Fights in a relationship appear for different reasons. Sometimes you just fight about a new reason, but there are times when you keep fighting for the same thing. According to psychologists, sometimes couples choose to fight about an unimportant thing which can also ruin their relationship. What about you? Which are the reasons you […]

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Fights in a relationship appear for different reasons. Sometimes you just fight about a new reason, but there are times when you keep fighting for the same thing.
According to psychologists, sometimes couples choose to fight about an unimportant thing which can also ruin their relationship.
What about you? Which are the reasons you usually fight about?
Below you can find some ways to avoid fights with your partner.

How To Avoid Unnecessary Fights In Your Relationship?

1. REACH AN ACCEPTABLE COMPROMISE – IF POSSIBLE

As with admitting fault and apologizing, compromising can be an easy yet difficult endeavor. The catch is that both people must be willing to “come to the table.” Obviously, compromise is much easier (in most cases) if the matter is trivial: where to eat, what movie to see, and so on.

An important distinction must be made at this juncture. Not all relationships are healthy, and some are extremely harmful. A quickly deteriorating relationship demands a solution that casual compromise will not bring. This is a situation that requires the intervention of a marriage counselor, therapist, or other expert.

2. RESPECT EACH OTHER’S SPACE AND PRIVACY

Dr. Terri Orbuch, a psychologist and research professor at the University of Michigan, has been studying marriage and divorce for over three decades. One particularly eminent study, The Early Years of Marriage Project, tapped Orbuch as a lead researcher.

During her research, Dr. Orbuch and her colleagues concluded that “Having enough space or privacy in a relationship is more important for a couple’s happiness than a good sex life.”

Dr. Orbuch explains: “When partners have their own sets of interests, friends, and time for self, that makes them happier and less bored. Time alone also gives partners time to process their thoughts, pursue hobbies and relax without responsibilities to others.”

Of course, a happier and more relaxed couple is far less likely to engage in fighting.

3. PRACTICE MINDFULNESS

As mentioned, negative emotions instigate and exacerbate a conflict, and leave a dastardly environment of negative energy after the fight is “over.” Hence, why we’re including mindfulness as a solution.

Mindfulness (or mindfulness-meditation) is the practice of observing one’s thoughts without judgment. Negative thoughts and energy are abundant during and after a heavy conflict – and learning how to “manage” these thoughts can both deter and mitigate any argument.

Proper mindfulness training will allow you to see these thoughts as mere thoughts, not as absolutely “truth” which, unfortunately, the mind has a way of misinterpreting.

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