3 Ways To Be Kind To Someone Even In Disagreements

. . . During the day you discuss with several people around different issues. But what if you always disagree with them and they are negatively affected by your words? It’s really hard to say the truth the same time not hurt someone’s feelings. Because at the end of the day, you care about your […]

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During the day you discuss with several people around different issues. But what if you always disagree with them and they are negatively affected by your words?
It’s really hard to say the truth the same time not hurt someone’s feelings.
Because at the end of the day, you care about your friends, and you don’t want to lie to them by telling something just to make them happy.
Scroll down to see which are the ways of being kind to someone when you don’t agree.

How To Be Kind To Someone Even In Disagreements?

1. Always Think Before You Speak

If you disagreed with someone and they spoke to you with vitriol, would you feel very good about yourself? Would you want to listen to whatever else they had to say next? Chances are, you’re shaking your head ‘No’. Instead of allowing yourself to say something cruel, imagine how you would like to be treated in a conversation where you and the person you were speaking with disagreed. Talk to them as you would want to be spoken to. It’ll help you stay calm and kind.

Relationship expert Amy Sherman says, “Remember, words have a way of connecting people or dividing them. Your choice of words can prevent a heart from breaking, a friendship from ending, or a feud from brewing. Let your words be a source of comfort, support, encouragement, peace and love. You’ll be a better person because of it.”

Think before you speak and you may find that you can come to an agreement on your differing opinions.

2. Focus On the Positive Emotions That Connect You With Your Friend

If you fundamentally disagree with someone who’s close to you, like a family member or a close friend, it can be easy to let the negative feelings overwhelm you. Instead of letting yourself focus on how you feel negatively towards them because of the differing opinion, focus on the positive emotions that you feel towards them.

“…in a circular way, when another person gets the feeling that you don’t really see much that’s good in him or her, that person is less likely to take the time to see much that’s good in you. Seeing the good in others is thus a simple but very powerful way to feel happier and more confident, and become more loving and more productive in the world,” says psychologist Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

Therefore, you can feel love and affection towards someone while disagreeing with them. You just have to take time out to focus on those good, positive feelings instead of letting yourself drown in negative ones.

3. Listen To Your Friend’s Opinions And Don’t Interrupt Them

Instead of starting off every conversation with the things that you fundamentally disagree with, find some sort of common ground that you can agree on. This will help you see the things that are the same about you, rather than continuing to focus on the things that are different. Being able to find a common ground means that you’ll both be able to listen to the validity of each other’s opinions without automatically tossing them out. After all, if you agree on one thing, you may find that you can agree on other things.

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