3 Tricks To Make Your Partner Listen To You In Seconds

. . Communication is an act which should happen between two people and not only one. Unfortunately, sometimes you are only the listener, and you partner or someone else is the one who always wants to talk. If this form of communication appears frequently, you will feel sad and lonely. Below you can find some […]

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Communication is an act which should happen between two people and not only one.
Unfortunately, sometimes you are only the listener, and you partner or someone else is the one who always wants to talk.
If this form of communication appears frequently, you will feel sad and lonely.
Below you can find some proven ways to get your partner to listen.

How To Get Your Partner To Listen?

1. LISTEN CAREFULLY, AND DISAGREE QUIETLY WITH RESPECT

As you and your partner are two individuals, you will not always agree on certain things in certain scenarios. You might have very similar tastes in music, furniture for the house, sexual positions, poetic devices, culinary choices, et al. However, when an instance comes to pass when there is a disagreement, it can feel uncomfortable. Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. of Psychology Today goes one step further, “If in that moment of disagreement you actually feel abandoned by your partner, it can be a very big deal.” Seltzer points out that our emotional part is and always will be controlled by our inner child, whereas the logical part is governed by our adult self. Remember that the thoughts of both of you are equally valid.

2. SAY WHAT IS NEEDED TO BE SAID AND STOP.

Droning on and on and on and on and on and on and Ariston gets annoying after a while. Why? This is because the speaker places a higher value on what they are saying than actually having an adult discussion about the topic in question. How would you feel being stuck in a monologue with someone who bores the life out of you? That is how your partner perceives you if you do not curtail the verbal bombardment. Keep things to a bare minimum, then wait – by giving time to your partner to digest what you said and to respond in kind.

3. DO NOT BLAME.

It is rather curious that the words “blame” and “shame” rhyme. You are in fact trying to shame them into submission if you blame them, and no situation is more delicate than a romantic relationship. This typically backfires and you are met with fiery resistence, as what you are practicing is one-upmanship. Points-scoring in relationships, if left unresolved, leads to resentment towards the “aggressor”. Say how you really feel but you do not have to resort to blaming and shaming to make your point heard.

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