. How many times did you go to bed angry? According to psychologists, almost every couple deals with angry feelings from time to time, especially in the time of midnight. It’s really strange how your happy mood can transform in a sad one in seconds. But the feeling of being angry sometimes, is actually good […]

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How many times did you go to bed angry?
According to psychologists, almost every couple deals with angry feelings from time to time, especially in the time of midnight.
It’s really strange how your happy mood can transform in a sad one in seconds.
But the feeling of being angry sometimes, is actually good for you.
Below you can find some reasons that support this argument.

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Why Going To Bed Angry Is Good For You?

1. YOU WILL WAKE UP WITH NEW THOUGHTS

An argument against going to sleep angry had always been the REM sleep cycle – that’s where you store your memories for the day, and many thought that going to bed angry stored those hostile memories, making it harder to let go. New studies, however, show that this is actually the exact opposite.

Chairman of the board of the National Sleep Foundation and chief of sleep medicine at Brigham and Women’s Hospital, Dr. Charles Czeisler says, “In deep sleep you store memories and in REM sleep you seem to integrate those memories with other memories that you had previously learned. Insight seems to be an important element of what happens during REM sleep.”

When couples go to bed, regardless of whether or not the argument is complete, the new memories are integrated in with all of your other memories. Your brain knows what to do, and it’ll help you make more sense of both the argument and your partner’s points. You’ll be able to wake up with a new understanding.

2. YOU WILL CLEAR YOUR MIND

Getting a good night’s sleep is the best way to clear your mind and get a new outlook on what’s going on around you. The recent study by the Official Journal of International Society of Psychoneuroendocrinology states, “When both partners slept less, couples interacted in a more hostile way than when at least one partner slept more.”

Therefore, when someone is sleep deprived, the argument can often never end, because one or both partners are unable to see where the other is coming from. If a couple is determined not to go to bed angry, they may find that they don’t go to bed at all. However, couples who put aside an argument for the sake of a good night’s sleep may find that when they wake up, they’re able to see the argument from a whole new perspective. This can make discussing the argument easier and smoother than before.

3. YOU WILL MAKE PERMANENT SOLUTIONS

At 3 in the morning, any solution that a couple comes up with for the end of an argument is most likely to be temporary. After all, they’re both exhausted and want to end the discussion and go to bed. Couples who refuse to table discussions and arguments may find that their solutions fall apart after a few days, or even hours, leading back to the exact same argument. However, couples who decide to go to bed, even if they’re angry, are able to come back to the argument and think of a better, longer lasting solution.

University of Missouri Extension gerontology specialist Jacquelyn Benson states, “Going to sleep and readdressing the problem the next day when our minds are rested is better than staying up until the wee hours of the morning to fight. We’re also less likely to trade escalating provocations back and forth.”

This is because you’re giving your brain time to readjust and also giving yourself time to cool off and come back to the argument with a calmer and clearer head.

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