5 Reasons Why Others Ignore You (And How To React In These Situations)

. . Do you feel like an outsider in a society? Do you think you have so much to say but actually keep silent? Do you believe that you are ignored? According to psychologists, around 80 % of people can’t be themselves in certain friendships. This relates to the fact that others won’t like you […]

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Do you feel like an outsider in a society? Do you think you have so much to say but actually keep silent? Do you believe that you are ignored?
According to psychologists, around 80 % of people can’t be themselves in certain friendships.
This relates to the fact that others won’t like you either.
Below we are going to show some reasons why some people don’t like you and how to change this concern.

Why Others Ignore You And How To React In These Situations?

1. YOU’RE SMART

People can’t seem to get enough of Will McAvoy’s (Jeff Daniels) speech in HBO’s former series The Newsroom.

Daniel’s character rails everyone; from millennials to America’s lack of progress and everything in-between. In lamenting over the latter, Daniels quietly says “We aspired to intelligence … It didn’t make us feel inferior.”

He’s right.

We see this problem in schools, where smarter kids who think differently face constant bullying. Inexcusably, it’s also in the workplace, where bright and driven people are fearful of standing out.

Fix: Have a bit more confidence in yourself. Learn the fine art of not giving a damn about people who envy you in the first place.

2. YOU DON’T LISTEN

The second reason on our list – not listening – is something we all do from time-to-time. The human brain is wired for novelty, and listening can be, well … boring.

But active listening is a great and highly sought after skill. We may not like what someone is saying; but if it’s something you need to hear, it benefits us to give our full attention to the speaker.

Fix: Active listening is a skill; and like any other skill, it is attainable. Understand the value (personal and professional) of being a good listener. Research, read, and practice active learning techniques.

3. YOU TRY TO IMPRESS EVERYONE

“Nobody likes a showboat.” Anyone remember someone telling them this? (Probably your grandmother or mother!)

It’s true. People who rev their engines or walk like they’re in a fashion show isn’t going to resonate well. They’re likely to be called out as arrogant and childish.

Fix: Ask a few people for their honest opinion of you. Keep a list of things you’re grateful for – and resist the urge to seek external validation.

4. YOU DON’T THINK BEFORE SPEAKING

Some people can talk off the cuff better than others. In fact, some people convey their thoughts better this way. For example, extroverts are typically much better at this than introverts.

Then there are the blabbermouths – people who have chronic diarrhea of the mouth. Such individuals who add their ignorant two cents all the time. Perhaps it isn’t their fault; after all, someone must learn before they can implement.

Fix: In his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, the late Dr. Stephen Covey says “Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood.”

The fix depends on your willingness to become a better listener. Don’t be afraid of uncomfortable silence. If you need some time to think about an answer, let the other person know!

(As one who dealt with this issue when angry, I can relate. It’s important, however, to hold yourself accountable. At the same time, don’t be too self-critical!)

5. YOU TRY TOO HARD

Trying too hard – more specifically, wasting efforts on shallow things – is a behavior that many people either don’t appreciate or understand. Here are some examples:

– People who try too hard to fit in.

– People who try too hard to look good.

– People who try too hard to “be the best” – and don’t back it up.

Fix: You may be afraid of being alone; you may be scared of being seen as inferior. As someone who’s dealt with the issue at hand, one solution is to practice self-compassion and self-acceptance.

Be you! You ARE worthy!

A parting quote …

The infamous Japanese swordsman, Miyamoto Musashi, wrote in his book The Five Rings:

“There is nothing outside of yourself that will ever enable you to get better, stronger, richer, quicker, or smarter. Everything is within. Everything exists. Seek nothing outside of yourself.”

Let us all take heed and carve our own life’s path.

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