. . . Making excuses can be necessary in some cases, but not for each thing. We know that sometimes you can be sick, tired or not in mood. But if you pretend to your friends or family members that you can’t spend some little time with them, you can lose them one day. Because […]
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Making excuses can be necessary in some cases, but not for each thing. We know that sometimes you can be sick, tired or not in mood. But if you pretend to your friends or family members that you can’t spend some little time with them, you can lose them one day.
Because life is short and it should be enjoyed to the maximum!
Don’t forget that someday you will need your friend’s talk or advise, so better react before it’s too late!
Which Are 4 Types Of Excuses People Make All The Time?
1. “I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH TIME.”
In a piece titled “Self-Sabotage: The Enemy Within,” the authors write:
“When it comes to self-sabotage, procrastination is king. Why? Because procrastination is the gap between intention and action, and it is in this gap that the self operates. The undermining behavior lies in not closing the gap.”
Fix: We procrastinate for one reason, and one reason only: we think too far ahead. “Research indicates that establishing a low threshold to task engagement fuels motivation,” writes the authors.
Their advice? Just get started on the task. You’ll quickly realize things aren’t bad at all.
2. “I’LL LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT.”
One of the biggest fears many of us have is the fear of rejection. How is someone rejected? By what they think, do, and say.
Look at some of the most revered people throughout history. Most of these individuals were heavily criticized and mocked for nothing more than being themselves.
Fix: Realize one simple thing.
Unless you’re a celebrity, most people are too wrapped up in their inner worlds to pay you much attention. The truth is that our mindtricks us into thinking we’re being critiqued when, in fact, nobody cares!
3. “IT’S TOO HARD!”
Speaking of the brain. Another one of its favorite tricks is trying to get you to believe you’re incapable.
Let’s use the infamous New Year’s Resolution as an example. The ball drops in Times Square, and you’re committed to some goal. You happily celebrate with your friends and maybe down a glass of champagne or six.
A few days, weeks, or months roll by, and we give up. “It’s too hard.”
Fix: Most of us don’t quit something on a whim. In many cases, we punish ourselves over the mistakes we’ve committed along the way until we can no longer accept the situation.
It’s important to realize that mistakes happen (we’re human, remember?!). Your errors in judgment are nothing more than detours. You’ll eventually reach your goal … if you don’t give up!
4. “I’M NOT STRONG ENOUGH.”
What is inner strength? Inner strength, writes Remez Sasson, is “willpower, self-discipline, persistence, the ability to concentrate, and piece of mind.”
In spite of popular belief, nobody is born with inner strength. Nor is inner strength bravado or “toughing it out.” Quite the contrary. Real inner strength is simply letting go – of anger, anxieties, and stress.
Fix: Buddha once said: “The mind is everything; what we think, we become.” If we think peace, harmony, acceptance, and gentle self-discipline, we will embody those things. Consider studying some form of meditation.
3. “THE WORLD IS AGAINST ME.”
To be fair, we’ve all thought this at one time or another. Life can be hard, after all.
Sometimes there is a person against you; someone who wants to steal your happiness. Make you miserable.
The question we need to ask is: “Will I allow it?”
Fix: Although our circumstances may not, at times, allow us to appreciate or realize this, it nonetheless remains a fact…
Happiness comes from within.
When we make a conscious choice to regularly take in and appreciate life’s abundance – family, friends, health, love, nature, etc. – we will change our mindset. We may experience growing pains along the way, but if we remain mindful of this fact, it will become part of us.
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